DIY strategies to worry less and enjoy more.
HERE’S A TRUE STORY
Back in the day, when I was lawyering and then later a senior corporate exec, my work days averaged 12-15 hours plus commute. The mental demands and exhaustion exceeded the physical ones.
I’d typically come home, eat dinner while standing up and then fall asleep in a heap of exhaustion. I would honestly fall asleep with my full suit on and sleep through the entire night. Routinely.
It became a little bit of a joke at the office: to work so hard, so often, to sleep in her clothes.
I’ll admit, at that time, there was a part of me that wore this like a badge of honor – “I worked and served to give it my all.”
Then one day, a subordinate asked me how it was going, “Are you still sleeping in your suits??” I acknowledged.
She replied, “Kirstin! Only dead people sleep in their suits!!” Then we laughed. Hysterically.
I went home that night. Her words still clinging to me. I couldn’t shake them. I realized how profound her off-the-cuff statement truly was.
That night, I WOKE UP & stopped sleeping in my suits. I was no longer dead nor in limbo. I AWOKE and have been since.
There’s hope for all of us who love our work or are slaves to it.
MY WISH FOR YOU
I wish you BOUNDARIES, LIFE & PAJAMAS. Martyrdom is for the dead.
TIPS IF YOU’RE STUCK
Fatigued, in limbo or dead?
Not sure how to begin laying down established patterns that aren’t really serving you in the long term?
Here are 2 simple places to start:
1. Ask yourself, am I trying to accomplish too much, what’s beyond my control, or am I engaging in futile behaviors? If so, why? Sometimes we’re naively trying to “boil the ocean”.
3. Perspective. Remember, the world doesn’t rest on your shoulders (even though it can feel like it). Truth is, those you work and engage with would rather see a “human being” than a driver. They’ll likely work harder for you too. Meanwhile, you’re performance, connectivity, and influence will naturally improve too.
WAYS TO REDUCE STRESS
Dale Carnegie offered these timeless principles as a means to Stop Worrying and to Start Living:
1. Live in day-tight compartments.
2. How to face trouble:
- Ask yourself, “what’s the worst that can possibly happen”
- Prepare to accept the worst
- Try to improve on the worst
3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you pay for worry in terms of your health.
What are your tips for functioning at high levels without burnout?